5 Money Talks Proven To Help A Second Marriage

May 15, 2017 | Financial Planning | 0 comments

Most couples have a hard time talking about money. Yet, it’s one of the most important conversations you can have. Especially if you’re heading into a second marriage. Life is more complicated the second time down the aisle. The 5 money talks proven to help a second marriage. 

When you get married, each spouse comes from a completely different financial background. Emotional and financial baggage complicate things.

The financial obligations that come along with children, complicate second marriages.
 
Talking about money makes people emotional. When you remarry, the emotions and stakes are even higher. One spouse may not be happy with the financial arrangements from their divorce. Perhaps they have to pay more child support than they’d like or even alimony.
 
Both spouses should discuss all these challenges so they don’t become financial obstacles.
 
Before you get remarried, these are the five money conversations worth having with your spouse.

 

1. Disclose all financial accounts, habits, liabilities, and even your credit

When you remarry, your divorce settlement plays a role in your financial obligations.

  • Do you owe child support or alimony?
  • Did your retirement account take a hit?
  • How long will you pay child support or alimony?
Divorce affects every relationship differently. There are so many ways a divorce can affect your finances. That’s why you need to be open and honest with your new spouse. Discuss all financial accounts and liabilities.
 
While you may want to forget the past, it’s often impossible. The financial impact of a divorce will likely stay with you for years. Your new spouse needs to know about all financial obligations.
Once you discuss your accounts and liabilities, talk about your habits. Are you a spender or a saver?
 
Opposites attract, right? So it’s common that one spouse is a spender and the other is a saver. Talk about how you will balance that given your other financial obligations.
 
You’re going to have to have the money talk at some point. It’s better to do it before you get married.
 
Be open and forthcoming. Discuss and disclose everything. Just like you had a fiduciary responsibility to your old spouse, the same holds true in your second marriage.
 
The National Foundation for Credit Counseling even suggests discussing your credit. This includes sharing a credit report and your credit score.
 
You can get a free report once a year for free through Annualcreditreport.com. That’s the only true free site for a free credit report.This report will not include your score.
 
This report will not include your score. That’s ok. While a score is helpful, the report shows you everything you need.
 
A credit report includes all your loans, credit cards, debts, and late payments.
 
If you also want a credit score, you can get one for free through some credit cards. You’ll also receive one if you take out a loan.
 
Disclosure gives you a financial framework so you can develop financial goals for the future. That way that financial baggage becomes a distant memory.

money talks after divorce

2. How will you manage your money?

Once you disclose all your financial accounts, habits, and liabilities it’s time to decide how you will manage your money.
 
To do this, think about what worked in your first marriage. While each marriage is different, reflect on your previous financial missteps and learn from them.
 
In a first marriage, most couples wing it. They don’t necessarily flush out every financial move. However, it’s important to do this the second time around.
 
You need to decide before you get remarried, how you will manage your money. Will you have a joint bank account or will you have a hybrid system?
 
In a hybrid system, you have separate bank accounts. In those, you take care of past financial obligations. You also create a joint account for your new financial responsibilities.
 
Merging your money in a first marriage makes sense. Remember, it’s a whole new ball game the second time around.

3. Create a financial plan

What are your long-term financial plans? Each spouse should answer this question separately. Create a financial plan with the answers.
 
Reaching your financial goals often takes longer in a second marriage. While you may have more assets, you probably have more debts or liabilities.
 
If you have children, there are extra financial obligations there too.
 
Plus, some spouses take a huge financial hit in a divorce. So, it’s common for a person to start over after divorce.
 
Create a monthly budget, and stick to it. Take into consideration all expenses. This is especially important if you separate your bank accounts.
 
These answers help you choose the best individual for your financial interests.
 
 
Consumer Reports considers a fee-only financial planner the most neutral. You pay a flat fee for his services. Therefore, a fee-only planner is not persuaded by commissions from products he sells. A fee-only advisor will always act as a fiduciary by putting you first because you pay a fee.
Ask the advisor if he belongs to a professional organization like the XYPlanningNetwork (XYPN). This means the advisor takes his responsibility to you one step further. To get into this network, the advisor signs a fiduciary oath.

4. Create a prenup

Of course, nobody wants to talk about “what if” but it’s the reality of life that divorcees know all too well. Decide ahead of time how assets will be divided.
 
Most couples enter a second marriage with established careers, bank accounts, and families. So, it’s not as easy to split all finances down the middle if the marriage, unfortunately, doesn’t work out.
 
To do this, figure out your net worth as individuals and as a couple.
 
Work with a lawyer to establish a prenup.

5. Estate planning

Again, more “what ifs”. When you are remarrying, you don’t want to think about losing a spouse. However, it’s a reality of life. If you have a blended family, estate planning is important, to protect your children.
 
Blended families can bring you a lot of bliss, but also a lot of headaches. Imagine the complications if a spouse dies.
 
Create a detailed estate plan. That way children are not thrown into the middle of a mess if you should pass.
 
Make sure your beneficiary designations are up to date. Do you want your ex-spouse, new spouse, or child to be the beneficiary? Be honest with your spouse about your decision.
 
Some financial experts believe it’s best to list your child as a beneficiary. That way there is no disagreement if you pass.
 
If you put your new spouse, there may be friction you can’t predict. You expect they will make the best decision everyone, but that doesn’t always happen. If you want to protect your children, it might be better to put them as the beneficiary.
 
Take your estate planning one step further with a will and power of attorney.
 
If children are part of a second marriage, estate planning is important. For your child’s sake, consider estate planning before a second marriage.
 
What money talk did you have that helped your second marriage?

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